It’s such a simple concept, but you would be surprised at how difficult it is for many people to ask for what they want. Some find it difficult or even consider it a sign of weakness to ask any question whatsoever.

That’s never been my problem; since I know I do not know everything, and never will. So if I want something, I ask; if I don’t know something, I ask.

I remember an incident that brought this seemingly simple to mind.

I was working and finding it difficult and uncomfortable to sit at my desk for hours each day. This perpetual sitting, served to exacerbate an injury to my back earlier in my life. Through an ad on TV, I learned of these adjustable desks that would allow me to stand while I worked, and sit when I wanted to; so I asked for one.

What amazed me was not the fact that I got the desk, but the fact that everyone who saw me with the desk, ask how I managed to get such a desk. I replied simply that, “I asked for it.”

In another example that shows the opposite of what happens when you fear asking for what you want, I remember an incident when I with with a male friend driving along a highway to a destination we weren’t so familiar with and came upon a detour. As he navigated the signs to follow the route to the detour, we came upon a community and got lost in the twists and turns required to get back on the highway.

After going around and around in circles for a while, I suggested we stop and ask someone familiar with the area to tell us how to get back on the highway. To my surprise, the answer I received left me dumbfounded, wondering how someone who seemed capable of coherent thought process would respond that he was just going to follow the car in front of us – wait for it! _ because they “look” like they know how to get out to the highway. To which I responded with a note of sarcasm; “So how do you know they’re not going home? Are you planning to follow them home as well?” Silence. Of course we kept driving round and round until, by the grace of God – we came upon the highway almost 30 minutes later.

I’ve learned that we never know what is possible unless we ask for it.

And be sure to be specific when you ask for something; if you’re vague – “Can you babysit for me?” Then perhaps the person can babysit for you but not at the time you actually want them to. Also – ask with confidence, as if you already have what you’re asking for. People can feel your energy, and if you’re wishy washy in your asking, they may not feel the need to respond positively to your request.

So with that said; today I want you to lose the fear of asking for what you want. You may be pleasantly surprised at the result.

In the meantime – “FEEL the FEAR, and DO it anyway!”