It’s not. Really!

I cannot understand that anyone should think that constantly griping about how unfortunate, unlucky, or unhappy you are, will make people want to be around you.

I know there are seasons of our lives that we’ve been knocked down to our knees by some situation or another, but please for God’s sake, don’t allow that season to consume your every thought and how you live your lives forever.

I was speaking to someone who went through a difficult time recently and every option I presented of moving forward was met with the response that, this is how their life will be from now on, it will never get better and how they are destined to live a miserable life. REALLY!!!

You mean to tell me that of all the people in the world, you are the ONLY one that has ever had heartache, setbacks, financial difficulties, loss of a loved one etc.? Wow!!!

That must make you feel very special. And – that is precisely my point here. Many people feel they are somewhat special to have gone through such misery. And so they hold onto it, as if it’s a “badge of honor” to suffer so much. They fail to realize that everyone on this planet have suffered from some hurt or another but somehow they have managed to moved forward. It’s not that they have forgotten the pain of the experience. Instead they CHOSE to LEARN from the experience and use that lesson to make better choices. Some have even thrived and grown exponentially, precisely because of what they have gone through!

I know. I’m a coach and I should have sympathy for people who have had difficult times. I should also feel sympathy for myself, because believe me, I’ve had some “mother” of difficult times!

But that is precisely my point.

I’m hoping that when someone comes to me to get help with their issues, that they are committed to do the work necessary to move on. If they are coming to me to help them sit and stew in their misery – then sadly, I am not that person. I cannot help someone who will not help themselves.

So that said, it bears repeating that, having a Perpetual Pity Party is NOT attractive; unless it is to other “Pity Party” experts who want to be around people just like themselves.

Wake up and smell the roses. Life is SWEET out there! Stop stewing in your misery! There is a whole world of new experiences and new opportunities to discover. Stop bitching and grab life by the horns and RIDE Baby RIDE!

As usual, I challenge you to – FEEL the FEAR, and DO it anyway!