So you “SAY” you want to make some kind of a change – you want to lose weight, you want to get a better job – you want to finish your dissertation – you want to find Mr. or Mrs. Right?

So what are you doing about it???

What’s that you say? “You know, someday…” “Um, you know, if it is the will of God…” ” – “Ahhh… – you know, I’m so busy …” And, on, and on it goes. The excuses, the whining, the if, buts and maybes”

So “someday” you say. I don’t believe there is a month in the calendar year, or a day of the week that is called “someday.” So what you’re really saying is “NEVER” right? Let’s just be clear about that and really just admit to yourself that what you’re really doing is trying to appease yourself – you know – so you can feel better about not making the change you “say” you want to make. Believe me when I say that, if you’re really serious about making a change – you will find the time to do so.

So my other question I have is, “Is this something you want to change, or something you need to change?” For the purpose of simplicity, let’s just say that a “want” is something you would LIKE to have or do, while a “need” is something you MUST have, or do. For example, you MUST take your heart medication, otherwise you’re liable to keel over and die; while you would LIKE to go to Italy, but if you don’t go – what the heck! So tell me, is this “THING” that you “SAY” you want to change, a “WANT” or a “NEED”? There are simple ways to determine this. Maybe some questions might suffice; here goes:

1. When you’re old, grey, and decrepit (LOL), and you’re sitting there rocking in your favorite chair – the cool or muggy breeze blowing through what’s left of your hair – or worse case, your favorite chair is rocking you … “Will you regret not having made this change? How will not making this change affect your life, for the better, or worse”

2. If this concerns completing your education – “How would you feel paying back student loans for a degree you never completed?”

3. When your children, family, friends, significant others, decide to quit at something important, by failing to make the changes necessary to achieve their goals; how can you now tell them they need to continue?

You get the drift?

James Allen said, “Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.” Stuck, is another word we can use for that word “bound” – but we are the only ones – me, just me – and now you, just you – who can really make the decision to “loose” ourselves from the chains of “stuckness” (No – that is not a real word – but I think you get what I mean :). YOU, ME – just US – have that power; nobody else can make that decision for you. We alone have to decide for ourselves that we need to make a change, and be willing to take the steps necessary to achieve that change – because ALL transformation is made ONLY when YOU, ME – first, make a decision and then take the necessary action steps to achieve the results of that change.

Change is a constant. Change before you have to!