If we live long enough in this life, we will incur a loss – whether through death or divorce.

It could be the loss of a pet, a child, a spouse, a loved one, a friend, a job, status, self-esteem; and each loss is uniquely different, for each individual, and for each loss.

It is often very difficult of those close to you to understand your loss. That is because – they never can. Even if both of you lost a spouse – each of you will experience your loss differently. When a parent has passed on, each child will experience that loss differently. If the parent has been lost through a divorce or estrangement, the loss is also different – though many similarities will exist between the loss of someone through broken relationships, or through death.

The loss of someone through death is final. That person will never be around to give you a second chance to love them the way they wanted to be loved, for you to apologize for any wrongs you may have committed against that person. This finality, can have dire effects on the one left alive to live with the fact that there were so many things that were unresolved, that in retrospect now seems so trivial. And now the finality of death has left them no way to resolve it.

If the loss is through divorce or similar relationship termination, then the fact that this person is still alive but is no longer a part of your life can also be heart-wrenching. Added to the fact that you may now have to live knowing that person has chosen to spend their life with someone other than you;  can also cause pain on a continuing basis.

Loss is loss. It is uniquely YOUR LOSS. And nobody can understand the pain of that loss except you. It is your relationship with that person that makes it unique, and nobody else has had that experience.

It is also true that time and distance will eventually result in the loss being less painful. You may still feel it, but it no longer cripples you. Others take a longer time to work through the pain of the loss and their whole world stands still.

If you’re suffering from any type of loss and feel totally overwhelmed and debilitated by the accompanying pain it causes, please contact me at: www.leverage4change.com to see how I can assist you in moving forward. Once at the website, fill in your contact information or email me at: dr.christine@leverage4change.com

Talk soon. In the meantime, FEEL the FEAR and DO it anyway!